I've met someone from aa?

Let me prelude by saying that I have 3 family members that either are in, or have been in the program and I don't agree with aa methodology and theory. I recently met someone from aa, who I really like. We hit it off really well, communicate well and seem to be very compatable. I quickly found out that he is "breaking the rules" by seeing me. His sponsor has givin him flack, telling him that he shouldn't have any entanglements at this point and even when he thinks that he's ready, it should only be somone from aa. I don't like how aa demands that one deny him/herself all life experiences when they are there to only strip one bad habit from their life. I'm not conviced that addiction really is an incurable disease. Let's say that I have an incurable tumor, could I simply will it away? The answer is no. However, millions of people have quit drinking, over eating, biting their nails, smoking, etc. by sheer willpower alone. That's because addiciton is not a disease, it's a habit or a behavior. But I do think aa wishes to brain wash one into thinking that alcoholism or any addiction is an incurable disease, to keep them coming back, giving money and bringing in new members. This is what makes me feel that aa's methodology is junk psycology and just another pontificatious dogma and seems to be incestuously cult like. However, as mentioned earlier, I really like this guy and want to date him, what should I do?